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Oct 24, 2023Liked by Sadie Hartmann (Mother Horror)

I love this post. I'm such a homebody, too, and the idea of doing things like tours sounds so exhausting to me, so I don't blame you a bit for getting worn out! And I love your comparison of the social media posts to the "party fail" lol. It's so true! I'm not super active on any social media this month because I've been busy IRL, but I lurk a lot, and on Threads specifically (which has become my 2nd fav - bookstagram is my fav SM platform), every time I see an author post something like, "Well, I'm finally here, I guess..." it puts a sour taste in my mouth because you can tell they're not coming into it with the best motives. I know marketing is important for authors, but hey, if you're not feeling it, why force it? I've been trying to make myself be more active on Twitter this year but I genuinely HATE the feeling of that site nowadays and I finally accepted a month or two ago that it just is NOT for me anymore. Why make myself miserable when I could put that effort elsewhere? Sorry for the rambling, I got carried away! 😂

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Oct 27, 2023Liked by Sadie Hartmann (Mother Horror)

This is why your newsletter is my favorite. Always real and filled with great advice. 🙌

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Oct 24, 2023Liked by Sadie Hartmann (Mother Horror)

I've been trying to expand my online presence into new territories recently. The party metaphor makes sense to me since I have issues socializing and being ignored both IRL and online is common for me.

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Oct 24, 2023Liked by Sadie Hartmann (Mother Horror)

I feel so seen and so at home reading this post. I had such a meltdown today morning about giving up on writing because it seemed why would anyone read anything I write because I don't tick all the usual boxes of authors and their large platforms, numbers on socials, etc. I am a hermit. I love connecting with everyone via Substack or Instagram but I think a major chunk of the publishing world is focused on numbers and not the readers. Both are important but I am a reader who never travels and all her favorite authors are in different continents! So what? Love 'em all!

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Oct 24, 2023Liked by Sadie Hartmann (Mother Horror)

Spot on advice for any author. I do comicons just about every year as well as various events, and while I'm really good at them, they take an energy most authors are not trained to use. I have 22 years of theatre behind me and know how to be "on," but it is an energy drain on multiple levels. Excellent advice!

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Oct 27, 2023Liked by Sadie Hartmann (Mother Horror)

Hi Sadie

Wasn’t sure if this is the right place to post this, but just caught up on your chat with The Kingcast lads and really enjoyed your take on Lisey’s Story. It was a book that I had liked when it came out but had struggled with the TV show. After your recommendation, I’ll go back and give it another go

Also, nice shout out on “In the Hills, the Cities” which, coincidentally, I also mention in my article on Clive Barker this week 👍🏼

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Oct 24, 2023Liked by Sadie Hartmann (Mother Horror)

Everything is so well said! And I love your thoughts re: wanderlust vs staying home/cozy as well as the analogy about social media and bringing party supplies because it just makes it all make sense. And we are all seeing the same attitudes around... so... I think it works!

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Oct 24, 2023Liked by Sadie Hartmann (Mother Horror)

Wow. You broke down every speck of that beautifully. And the section on social media "What in it for MEEEE?" crop-dusting as a poop-trailing party fail is succinct fucking genius. I wish everyone -- shit, ANYONE -- understood this game as well as you do. And having read your piece, maybe they will! Finally, thank you for your honesty and sincerity, which are -- for me, at least -- the wellspring from which anything with any lasting value must come.

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Oct 24, 2023Liked by Sadie Hartmann (Mother Horror)

I figured out how to use Instagram thanks to Substack, since they manufacture graphics specifically for use there based on my stories. So I started on there. It's interesting.

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Oct 24, 2023·edited Oct 24, 2023Liked by Sadie Hartmann (Mother Horror)

Currently travelling. I just did a day trip to Montreal (from Vancouver) on a red eye, followed up by a flight out to Cape Breton the next day. I slept for a full day afterwards. I’m outlining a new book - but in libraries and cafes instead of the desk and chair in my apartment. I’m fully caffeinated, to the edge of my anxiety. The bed I’m sleeping on is so hard it feels like it is making the blood pool on the side of the body I sleep on. The time zone is making mid-afternoon feel like midnight. I love and hate it at the same time. There is nothing like exploring a new space/culture but it is tiring.

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Oct 24, 2023Liked by Sadie Hartmann (Mother Horror)

I'm getting more into doing that, although some of them (e.g. Discord, Reddit) make it harder to do because of posting and content restrictions.

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Oct 24, 2023Liked by Sadie Hartmann (Mother Horror)

Great post and advice.

I totally know what you mean about being a homebody. On a book tour now and missing my hubby, cats and plants so much!

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